whispers hey you can’t use the same critical framework on works by individual lgbt creators that you use for works by corporations looking for profit from lgbt stories written by straight people because the context and consumption of that content exist in completely separate spheres thannnkssssss
you can’t deride a depressed lesbian’s work for having the sad lesbian trope in it
you can’t tell a trans woman writing about being trans that she’s just writing the stereotypical trans narrative
those are their stories to tell and they’re not stereotypes they’re real lives and reducing them to the boxes het media puts us in is reproducing their oppression
psa: different people with the same mental illness will act different. Two people can have bpd and be VERY different. two people with anxiety can be different. the point is, stop acting like someone with a mental disorder or illness has to be a cookie cutter of the symptoms. not. everyone. is. the. same.
If a disabled person is able to do something that most similarly disabled people are not able to do (i.e. an autistic person excelling at a job that requires social skills), it’s not because they overcame their disability and just did it. They most likely have to do it a different way than everyone else does. They did not become successful when they started listening to people telling them “yes you can”. They became successful when they STOPPED listening to people telling them “yes you can”, accepted that no one else will help them, and found a unique solution for themselves. That solution often goes against what experts recommend.
If you want a disabled person to be successful, you’ll have to believe them when they say that they can’t do something and help them find an alternate solution. Simply saying “yes you can” is not the slightest bit helpful.
Apparently 30 or lower is indicative of possibly being on the autism spectrum.
Jokes on them cause I am on the spectrum.
And here I thought I was being generous with my answers… Ahahaha… Geez.
I got a 22. And apparently low empathy can also be a symptom of adhd, which I am. But it’s so weird cause I always thought I was pretty good at putting myself in someone else’s shoes. Hm.
29
…what.
2. I got 2. Potentially this could explain a lot.
I’m a 33;;; how
For people wondering about “lowered empathy” in conjunction with autism, it’s not actually a thing. Non-autistic people who study autism often perceive their autistic subjects to have lowered empathy because they cannot empathize with them, and so that gets arbitrarily slapped on a list of symptoms. In reality, autistic people often experience an excess of empathy because we simply can’t filter out what we should feel most empathetic towards. A dying family member, a hurt fictional character, and a broken mug all elicit the same type of empathy from us, and it’s exhausting to feel that amount of empathy all the time, so we are just constantly exhausted from that. That’s why people – including ourselves – perceive autistic individuals to have less empathy. We’re tired and numb from feeling so much.
We’re also tired of being perceived as coldhearted, un-empathizing monsters by online tests that, frankly, use questions that have way too much exclusivity in their wording and don’t allow for flexible interpretation. The questions on this quiz vary wildly in meaning when put into different contexts, and really cannot judge a person’s empathy, and some low empathy score received from them really should not be used to scare someone into thinking they have autism.
Autistic people are very empathetic, and it honestly is very hurtful and toxic to keep associating us with having low/no empathy because that just isn’t true.
I don’t know about the adhd side of things, but if someone would please explain that relationship with empathy that would be great!
My post that’s going around: I keep seeing reblogs talking about how dangerous white men are, and while I agree (obviously), we need to watch other white women too.
White women are fucking dangerous. As soon as a white woman starts crying while engaging with a person of color, other white men and women get antsy and tense. If you witness white women trying to start shit with a person of color, step the fuck in. Stand with them. Especially if you are a white woman too. Engage. Shut white women down. Inform others of what’s really happening. Speak up and stand with people of color. Back up their voices.
thinking about ur otps napping is SO IMPORTANT. Does one protectively shush anyone who comes near their sleeping partner. Does one come home to find the other sleeping on the floor under a table or curled in a corner. Does the partner wake them up and move them to some place more comfortable or do they roll their eyes and cover them with a blanket whatever weird place they are. Do their roommates come home to find them both tangled in impossible positions and marvel at how they are somehow asleep. Who gets really emotional the first time they fall asleep together. Who drools on the other one’s chest. Who wakes up with the other’s hair in their nose. these are the necessary questions.
lesbian means attracted to women and only women, and thats it.
stop reducing women to their genitals, and stop invalidating trans lesbians and their girlfriends.
I wonder how many terfs and transphobes are freaking out on this post….but, thank you for making it. You’re literally spot on, but people just don’t want to think like this.
oh my god, they were roommates 